However good news for the ladies is, just as there are that many more ways to communicate and cheat easily via Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, texting, and the countless dating sites and apps, there are also that many more ways to catch the cheaters.
In this post we describe the 10 obvious signs that your husband is cheating on you and also hit home on how to catch him red-handed! Remember, seeing any one of these signs does not necessarily mean that your husband is cheating, rather several of these or a pattern indicates that something fishy is going on.
Follow our suggestions at the end of this article to and read our detailed guide on how to catch your husband cheating.
1. Picking Fights
Does your husband start more arguments and fights these days, mostly over silly things? Does he then storm out of the house? Hmm, who knows if it’s to cool off or have another rendezvous?
This classic sign of cheating stems from his internal conflict of being with you while wanting to spend more time with the other woman. Of course, it causes frustration, moodiness, and anger because he sees those emotions as a means to get away from you.
2. He’s Suddenly Become a Socialite
Suddenly your husband is taking too many nights out with his boys, and there’s been an increase in his online activity. He is huddled with his laptop way too much and you know it’s not work related.
He’s discovered a newfound-love for social media and when you enter the room, he quickly closes the laptop screen and becomes attentive, only to appear panicky.
3. Secret Conversations
It’s time to be suspicious if you find your husband doing the following, especially if this behavior is new or has suddenly become more frequent:
- Catch your husband leaving the room to take calls
- Talking in a low voice or quickly finishing conversations when he sees you.
- If he takes his phone into the bathroom.
- He keeps it close even when going to sleep
You need to look up his phone history and if it has been erased, you know he definitely has something to hide. Start monitoring your husband’s phone right away!
4. Taking Pains to Improve his Appearance
When people cheat, they usually try to improve their appearance to impress the individual they’re having an affair with. If your husband had been pretty nonchalant about the details of appearing presentable, like meticulously fixing his hair or tucking in his shirt the right way and all of sudden there’s been a metamorphosis, do question it.
Does he dress differently – new clothes, haircuts, new shoes? Is he suddenly obsessed with getting in shape? Don’t get us wrong, taking care of yourself and wanting to look good is healthy, but when it’s an overnight change, something is definitely brewing.
5. Working Late too Often
Depending on your husband’s career, he really could be working overtime just so that he can afford that necklace you wanted for your birthday. Or it could be due to problems at home, like a strained relationship between you two?
But if you’ve ruled that out and there’s no bonus payment on his salary stub either, plus he’s unreachable at work, you should be on the lookout for changes and start tracking his phone to be aware of his whereabouts!
6. Unexplained Behavioral Changes
Appreciating these subtle changes requires keen observation. If the affair has been going on for a while, your husband might not be able to differentiate memories of time spent with you from those of time spent with the other woman. For example, “Didn’t we dine here?” clearly indicates he’s been there before, but not with you.
He seems increasingly disinterested in the lunches/dinners you cook him even if they are his favorite dishes. You ask him to catch up for lunch and he declines every few days. Unless he’s got gastroenteritis and is throwing up a lot, he’s gotta be eating somewhere and with someone. And not all of them could be a snack with his buddies.
7. He has a history/family history of cheating
If your husband has had trouble with expressing remorse, guilt or apology for wrong doings in other areas of his life like after a wrong-footed argument or harsh words then it’s unlikely that he would have those emotions if he’s cheating on you.
So it’s quite possible for him to go on as he normally would and display no obvious discomfort about cheating – because he wouldn’t be feeling guilty! Past behavior is often an indicator of current or future behavior so if your man has cheated once, he can do it again – especially if he comes from a line of promiscuous uncles.
8. Cold Shoulders and Mood Swings
To assess this, you need to reflect on how your communication with your husband has always been. Has he always been very caring and now suddenly he appears preoccupied? Does he seem cheerful when he’s leaving home but sad and withdrawn when he comes home?
If has recently stopped communicating much or he’s distancing himself from you and becoming increasingly emotionally detached, it may be because he’s emotionally invested in someone else. The problems in his other relationship could be ruining yours.
So don’t just start an accusatory argument in hope of extricating a confession, confirm that he’s cheating by secretly spying on your husband’s phone.
9. Clean Car Syndrome
Has your husband suddenly acquired a revelation of sorts about keeping his car absolutely squeaky clean of any family belongings? He doesn’t want your hair brush or spare Chap Stick in the glove compartment or your favorite scent freshening the air, or even the children’s toys on the back seat?
It could be a sign that he’s clearing up any signs of a family for an affair or using his car to cuddle with a temptress on a date.
10. Liar Liar, Pants on Fire
He lies and does it well and you know it. Especially if he takes deception lightly or thinks of it as a talent/appreciable quality like a narcissist, bring out the red flags! He’s doing that to other people and he can easily turn those lying charms on you when he decides to go cheating.
So if he’s telling you he got late because of a traffic jam downtown and avoiding your eyes, it could be because he’s cheating.
Conclusion: The Way Forward
Look for these signs and trust your gut and intuition, it’s your best friend. Listen to it and investigate. Remember the two Cs: confrontation and communication but the first rule of confrontation is to gather your evidence.
So buy a powerful cheating husband spy app like StealthGenie, and monitor all of your husband’s texts, calls, social media activity, emails, photos and even his GPS location in current time or the routes he took during the day. All of this remotely and secretly and as soon as it happens so that it reaches your online control panel before he can delete it!
It can spare you a lot of pain and agony. A baseless confrontation will not make him stop cheating nor will it improve your relationship. Taking action will, so let the spying begin!